I have to admit I’ve been rather nervous to do style posts up till now. It took me months to build up the courage/confidence to do the first one.
I feel that there is a certain expectation that you need to have a certain look to blog about style. Please tell me I am not alone here?
It’s sad that society has made me feel that because I am not tall and don’t have the typical “model” look, I don’t have the right to post fashion photographs of myself.
I know this sounds crazy because I post photos of myself all the time. But it doesn’t mean I don’t critique, criticise and hate myself just as much as anyone else.
I found this great article about the unattainable perfection and body image in advertising. I mean if Jessica Alba needs this much editing, what hope do the rest of us have?
I still fuss over what to wear, telling myself it doesn’t look good, and that if I only had longer longs, thinner arms, smoother hair I would be happy. But the truth is, it wouldn’t make much of a difference. I know people who are literally editorial-level picture-perfect who have less confidence than me.
It doesn’t matter what the world thinks you look like, you need to feel beautiful for it to make any dent in your self worth.
I look at the popular fashion bloggers and they are always tall-ish, stick thin and literally make everything look good.
I often can’t even bring myself to wear a sleeveless top (I have this thing about my arms/armpits), let alone throw together any skimpy outfit and pull it off effortlessly.
I’ve genuinely been scared that people will see my photos and think “why is this short little girl style blogging?”.
And to be honest, that’s pretty damn pathetic of me. I tell all my friends to be confident in their own skin, not aspire to look like girls in magazines and not live a life of constant self loathing. And here I am scrolling through my photos feeling like I don’t have the right to call it style.
I always get my kind and patient fiancee to take a million photos of me so I always get the right angle to make me look a certain type of thin. Is this the way I want to live my life? With a unfair expectation of myself to look like someone else?
No – it’s really not.
And do you know what? I am not going to let my distorted view of what I should look like stop me.
I like clothes, I like style, I like photography – so I am just going to keep doing what I love and forget about what everyone thinks.
Truth is, it takes time to get to know your body, your style and what you feel good in. And I still have a long road ahead, but you have to start somewhere right?
I could talk about this forever, so before I harp on too much, I wanted to share this style post.
It’s not often I find a dress that I fall in love with before even trying on.
So when I saw this baby hanging in my friends closet, I have to confess that it was love at first sight.
Being the darling she is, she gifted it to me. So you see, this is one of the many reasons I had to take her out to dinner to say thanks.
Nothing makes me feel more confident than a tailored dress and strappy heels. I love the structure of the bodice, the capped sleeves and the lace detail along the front. Although a little too sexy for work, I can’t wait to wear it on a date with the mister one day soon, now that the weather has warmed.
Anisa – The Macadames. xx